Then Adonijah the son of Haggith exalted himself, saying, I will be king: and he prepared him chariots and horsemen, and fifty men to run before him. And his father had not displeased him at any time in saying, Why hast thou done so? and he also was a very goodly man; and his mother bare him after Absalom. And he conferred with Joab the son of Zeruiah, and with Abiathar the priest: and they following Adonijah helped him. But Zadok the priest, and Benaiah the son of Jehoiada, and Nathan the prophet, and Shimei, and Rei, and the mighty men which belonged to David, were not with Adonijah. And Adonijah slew sheep and oxen and fat cattle by the stone of Zoheleth, which is by Enrogel, and called all his brethren the king’s sons, and all the men of Judah the king’s servants:But Nathan the prophet, and Benaiah, and the mighty men, and Solomon his brother, he called not. ~~ First Kings 1:5-10 (KJV)
Adonijah was David’s son born next after Absalom. We are told that he was good looking and that his father had never interfered with whatever he wanted to do. In other words, he was a spoiled child, never disciplined.
Good looking children have a handicap. People make a fuss over them when they are small and tend not to scold them “because they’re so cute.” Even when they make mischief, it’s excused away.
When my son was small, he was very cute. He looked like a little elf, hair as gold as dead-ripe wheat, eyes as blue as an Irish lake, a sprinkling of freckles, and a grin that could light up an underground cavern.
He was about two years old when we were in the grocery store check out lane. Like every two-year-old I’ve ever known, his arms were rubbery enough to stretch to every candy bar and chewing gum package lining that aisle. I took both his hands into mine as I told him “no” and placed them on the handle of the grocery cart beneath my own hands.
A lovely great-grandmotherly type behind me said “He’s so cute! How can you scold him?”
“He’s so cute, how dare I not?” was my response.
Children need to grow up with a sense of responsibility, not entitlement. Adonijah wanted the glory of the kingship, he didn’t have the stomach to behave as a king. When Solomon was crowned by David, Adonijah withered on the vine.
Undisciplined people don’t have the perserverance to see things through to the end.
Help us to be Your disciplined children and to discipline our own children to Your ways. Give us the patience and endurance to persevere to the end.
In Jesus’ most precious name.