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What and Why

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. ~~ Genesis 1:26-27 (KJV)

Looking at these verses tells us what we are, creations in the image and likeness of God. We were created to have dominion over all the other creations of God.

And we were created in two genders. The two genders were, in my view, needed because of our human limitations. God is infinite with infinite capacities for love, tenderness, judgment and wrath.

It would be impossible to get all the qualities of God wrapped up into a single human being, unless that human form were God himself in the person of Jesus Christ.

And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.

And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. ~~ Genesis 2:19-25 (KJV)

This excerpt speaks to the creation of woman out of man. She was created to be a companion equal to and fit for him. This places woman at the side of man.

The relationships in these two passages are both vertical (with God) and horizontal (with man).

Because God is our creator, we are subservient to him, to his purposes and plans. We are not capable of knowing all of those purposes and plans, but we are capable of trusting him to know them and to see them to fruition. We need only supply our obedience to him.

Because woman was created from the rib of man, they are the same flesh. She wasn’t created from his head to be dominant over him, nor from his feet to be subservient. She was created to be a companion and helper, fitted to him perfectly. Equal in all things.

This requires being respectful, submissive, kind, and loving.

We respect others because they, too, were made in God’s image.

Submission requires letting people see who we are, without pretense or mask, and letting them show us who they are the same way.

Kindness means treating each person as if they were your other self.

Loving means having their best interest at heart, equal to or even more than your own self-interest.

Those are tall orders, but possible if we remember who we are and whose we are.

Father, God,

Help us always to remember that our beginning is in you and that everyone else has that same beginning. Keep us ever faithful to tending your hurting world, mending relationships and healing wounds.

In Jesus’ most precious name.
Amen.

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Not Good

And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.

And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:

But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.

And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.  ~~  Genesis 2:15-24 (KJV)

Relationships with other people are important. During all of creation, God said “it is good.” This is the only instance where He said “it is not good.”

Look carefully. Adam was in the Garden of Eden. He had authority over all living creatures. He was to tend the garden. He needed nothing. But he was alone. That was the only thing that was not good.

While the rest of the passage speaks to marriage most obviously, some other inferences can be drawn. Every human being needs companionship.

At one point, I worked in a nursing home. Most of the residents were alone in one way or another. They had lost themselves in dementia, or they had no close family to tend them. Others had physical limitations that didn’t allow them to stay in their own homes alone. Those that did the best were people who had family or friends visiting regularly. Or they cultivated relationships with those around them, both staff and residents.

For the others, we tried to encourage friendships among the residents. We planned social events: teas, games, meals, entertainment, and outings — feeble substitutes for relationships.

This week, I’m taking stock of my relationships. There is, of course, my husband – the primary relationship – and my children/grandchildren/great-grandchildren. But there are also friends. When you come to my age (well past retirement), many of your friends are of similar age with the concomitant health problems and frailties. You never know how long they will be with you.

Reared as an only child, I longed for sisters. During my lifetime God has given me several. Della and Sandy have gone home and left me here to miss them. Delores and Sally and Geni are still with me. They are listed in order of proximity.

I’ve known Delores for about forty years. We see each other regularly – generally once a week – and can share anything without fear of rejection. She knows most of my warts and loves me anyway.

Sally and I were in grade school together (much more than thirty years ago). She lives in Texas, so we see each other rarely. But when we can get together, we pick up in the middle of the paragraph. Although our branches extend in different directions, our roots are intertwined, like side by side grape vines with trunks twisted together and tendrils escaping all around.

Geni is a much newer friend. And my largest regret is that I have never hugged her. We met on line when she and her husband were in China. We struck up a conversation and discovered we were sisters at heart. She prays for me and my other friends, family and causes, and I pray for her and hers. We rejoice, share, complain, chat, and love one another. The only thing missing is the hug because I have never met her in person. She lives on the west coast (closer than China but still too far for coffee and conversation).

Three perfect jewels in my life, each a different color, size and shape. One is an emerald, another an opal, and finally a pearl (listed in alphabetical order, not respectively). What a treasure chest!

This week, take stock of the treasures in your relationships. What can you do to enhance them? Can you cultivate new ones?

Father, God,

You placed us all in specific positions in your world, not capriciously, but purposefully. Show us Your purposes in our relationships. Make us sensitive to new ones and help us to cultivate them to Your glory.

In Jesus’ most precious name.
Amen.

What Banner Do You Carry?

Now Amalek came and fought with Israel in Rephidim. And Moses said to Joshua, “Choose us some men and go out, fight with Amalek. Tomorrow I will stand on the top of the hill with the rod of God in my hand.” So Joshua did as Moses said to him, and fought with Amalek. And Moses, Aaron, and Hur went up to the top of the hill. And so it was, when Moses held up his hand, that Israel prevailed; and when he let down his hand, Amalek prevailed. But Moses’ hands became heavy; so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it. And Aaron and Hur supported his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side; and his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. So Joshua defeated Amalek and his people with the edge of the sword.

Then the Lord said to Moses, “Write this for a memorial in the book and recount it in the hearing of Joshua, that I will utterly blot out the remembrance of Amalek from under heaven.” And Moses built an altar and called its name, The-Lord-Is-My-Banner; [Exodus 17:15 Hebrew YHWH Nissi]

~~ Exodus 17:8-15  New King James Version (NKJV)

In today’s political climate, we see people carrying placards and banners and signs with the names of candidates or causes. And generally, they are not quiet about what or whom they support.

It makes me wonder why we aren’t as vocal and evident about our Lord and the things He has done for us. As I look back on my own life, I see places where He gave me huge benefits.

During the forties and fifties, our society was quite different from what it is now. Family meant that Dad had a job, and Mom stayed at home with the children. My parents had divorced, so my mother worked a job that kept her moving weekly or monthly, and my father lived in another state. But instead of being impoverished, God provided me with a home in my grandparents’ house, a godly physician as mentor, and a close knit church family. I grew up with a foundation of faith which was to serve me well in coming years.

When life brings problems, as it frequently does, my first impulse is to lean on the Lord. When you let Him fight your battles, victory is assured.

If you look at the scripture, Moses kept his hands raised. Raised hands are a symbol of praise. Sometimes it isn’t easy to praise the Lord. When finances are tight or relationships are fractured, praise comes hard. When we least feel like praising it is precisely the time to praise Him the most.

It isn’t easy, but if we are blessed, we have our own Aaron and Hur to help us keep our hands lifted.

Then when the battle has been won, we lift the banner in easy praise to the Lord!

Father, God,

Help us to remember that the battle is Yours, not ours. The victory is Yours, not ours. But in that victory, we win, too. Give us the grace and courage to proclaim Your victory in our lives.

In Jesus’ most precious name.

Amen.

Your Identity in Christ

We talk a lot today about self-realization and just exactly who we are and what we are entitled to.  But when you look at it from God’s perspective, you see something just a little different.

Read: Luke 7:24-35

Jesus read from the scroll of Isaiah about Himself. That should have been the first clue for the people that He was the prophesied Messiah.

Here again, he refers to the Old Testament prophets, when he said John is the one about whom it is written:

“See, I will send my messenger, who will prepare the way before me. Then suddenly the Lord you are seeking will come to his temple; the messenger of the covenant, whom you desire, will come,” says the LORD Almighty. (Malachi 3:1)

Jesus is speaking plainly about His own identity. One of Jesus’ most powerful assets is that even in human form He knew who He was. He was identified as part of the God-head. While He limited Himself to time and space like any man, He was still a part of God.

How do you identify yourself? Can you tell who you are without referring to your parents, spouse, or children? Do you label yourself by your occupation or co-workers? How do you define yourself in your own mind?

These are important questions. Most of the time we identify ourselves by our relationships to other people and our occupations.

In order to draw closer to God, we need to be identifying ourselves with relationship to Him. If you have ever heard the still, quiet, powerful voice of God, what name did He call you by?

Just exactly who are you in that context?

Father, God,

Thank You for loving us enough to send Your Son, Jesus, to be the propitiation for all our sins. Forgive us our many transgressions, and teach us how to be your obedient, compliant children.

In Jesus’ most precious name.
Amen
First published 27 October 2009
Thank you for bearing with me.